As usual, the inspiration for this entry was found in the cesspools of twitter. If you aren’t aware, ever since Beyonce discussed her complications in giving birth, an op-ed from The New York Post has appeared to have aged horribly. The author graciously named the op-ed “Having a baby isn’t a miracle and doesn’t make you a goddess”, and it circulated in early 2017 around when Beyonce performed at the Grammys.
I feel that it shouldn’t be a debate that the newly crowned fertility goddesses (Beyonce’s) birth story from the bloating, to the emergency c-section and toxicity does in fact sound like a miracle so I will not be focusing this critique around Beyonce, but rather the far reaching implications of shaming women for being proud of giving birth.
The general tone of the piece
aside from being an asshole to Beyonce is that giving birth is not anything special because it is commonplace and wanting “worship” for the struggles of motherhood is undeserved. I just wanna say before I begin my rant that this is the article, read it if you’re a masochist, and I am not a mother nor do I have any plans for giving birth in the near future. Please don’t take this as me being emotional, I’m just here to defend mothers and tell people (in this case, the author) that they’re awful like I always do.
so, let’s criticize shall we?
1: “There are mothers who are struggling to get by– But these are not the mothers who give speeches about how they are lost”
This is in reference to Adele saying that she lost herself in motherhood, to which the author who I will refer to as Naomi from now on pompously dismissed any likelihood that Adele could perhaps… have a hard time.
I am the child of a mother who has struggled to get by and guess what… at times she complained! And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that! Naomi who are you to say who has the right to say one negative thing about their lived experience?
2: “It’s not” a huge accomplishment to have a child
I don’t know if Naomi is a fan of statistics, but I’ll provide her with a few to show that having a child isn’t simply getting knocked up, pushing, and then feeding a leech.
As of 2015, the MMR was about 216 deaths per 100,000 live births. This may seem like an insignificant amount, but it truly isn’t seeing as it isn’t only high risk pregnancies that result in these deaths. Any complication during delivery can be potentially fatal. (courtesy of unicef)
The reported rate of clinical postpartum depression is between 10-20% of all live births. (postpartumdepression.org)
In 2016, the IMR was 5.9 out of 1000 live births in the US. (CDC)
I don’t feel a need to put out more stats because i have a suspicion that my audience agrees with me seeing as just about nobody
aside from naomi is pompous enough to suggest that childbirth isn’t a huge accomplishment.
To end this post I’ll just answer the possible question of “why did you feel the need to write a post on a one and a half year old opinion piece from the New York Post of all places?”
Because I felt like it.
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